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Did you grow up with these? Money doesn't grow on trees.
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Let me just go pick some of that off the money tree if you need that thing.
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Only greedy, mean people are rich.
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There's all kinds of stories that might be hidden inside our minds.
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Those are the negative ones.
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Maybe they're positive ones. Maybe you had experiences earlier in your life
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that showed you how empowering it is to make money and how you absolutely could do it.
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Every single one of us has stories hidden in our subconscious that direct the
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way we look at money and that means the way we look at success as well. Let's talk about it.
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Welcome to Mind Your Midlife, your go-to resource for confidence and success, one thought at a time.
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in yourself or change your habits isn't enough to wake up excited about life
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powerful insights to stop feeling stuck and start loving your midlife.
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This is the Mind Your Midlife Podcast.
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I am excited about today's episode because we have three people coming in to
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share some of their money stories and money experiences to help you see what
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it is I'm talking about today.
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So clients, friends, previous podcast guests, really going to be cool to hear
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from them about their money stories.
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And what do I mean by a money story?
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Well, all of us as midlife women, we have had some success in our lives.
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I said this last week as well. You have reached milestones in your career or
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your business or your family or your just life and health, whatever it might be.
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And oftentimes, and oddly enough, it's often around midlife,
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but oftentimes in our lives, we hit a period where we also feel like we're stuck
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at a certain income level. all.
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Or a certain amount of savings for retirement. And we just don't see any increase.
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We just kind of feel like we're treading water.
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And we really thought we would have more saved for retirement right now.
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This is something that certainly hits me.
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My husband and I are thinking, wow, we'd love to retire right now.
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But if only we had more income already saved, right?
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Or you're looking at your career and you have, let's say,
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15 more years to go, but you've looked over the last 10 years and you feel like
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you've just sort of stagnated at a certain income level or you've started a
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business and you're just kind of sitting in one place.
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And I certainly experienced that in a previous business at various times.
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Sometimes that can be caused by an economic situation or a lack of job availability.
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However, most of the time, and I would argue even almost all of the time,
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a lot of that is caused by what's deep inside our subconscious mind directing
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how much money and income and success is it okay for me to have?
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And is money a positive thing or is it a negative thing?
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Does it make me a good person or a bad person?
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All of that can be hidden inside our heads.
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And before we ever get out there to start the business or get the job or create
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the invention or whatever it is,
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if inside your mind, there is a belief that you will have to do something selfish
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and greedy in order to make more money,
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you are going to sabotage yourself.
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So let's, let's look at some of these stories. I want you to really see what I mean.
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And yes, at the end, I will give you some tips on what you can do to identify
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your stories and to start to change them if they need changing.
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But we need to start with really understanding what does this look like?
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What does this sound like?
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Because typically when I say to a coaching client, let's figure out what your
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stories are, they will say back to me some form of.
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Really tell myself stories about money. However, if we think back to our experiences
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in life, we have created meaning out of experiences, out of little sayings,
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out of things we used to hear that do tell us stories about money.
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So I'm going to give you a couple of positive examples first.
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These first two are stories that are, I would say, quite empowering in terms of money.
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So Our first one is Sara, and she is talking about how she really learned to
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be empowered related to money. Listen in.
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Growing up, I always had a job, and I started working when I was 11 years old
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cleaning my dad's office.
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He was a small business owner as well. And I learned that I could actually afford
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the things that I wanted if I put money aside.
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So I opened up a high yield savings account and I started to save a ton of money.
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I also used to let, you know, those things where the government can pay you
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to, it's like an extra high yield thing where you lend money to the government
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and then they give you back a higher return.
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So I used to do that as well growing up and I was able to really save up a lot
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of money so that when I came out of college,
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I was able to pay back my loans and I was able to travel every summer and I
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was able to put a lot of money into retirement because I had worked to save
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money and I never really had to miss out on things because I had prioritized
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that. Doesn't that feel empowering? Yeah.
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I love what Sarah was saying. And now I want to share with you another positive
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money story, again, from a childhood experience, because we really do save these
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things from when we're younger.
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This is Shari, and she's talking about a very young experience that really
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showed her that she had the power when it came to money and income. Have a listen.
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I remember when i was like i think i was like
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14 years old or i was 13 going about to
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turn 14 right in the summer because i have my birthday's in
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september my dad said to me you know you like to buy all the stuff you like
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your stuff he's like but i'm done paying for your stuff you need to go get a
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job and i'm like okay i'll go get a job and we lived in a beach town so it's
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touristy And so the summer season was about to start.
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And so my mom took me around to different restaurants to hire me.
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And no one would hire me because I was too young.
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I was just a little too shy of the working age.
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And I'm like, oh my God, what am I going to do? I need to buy my stuff. I need to get a job.
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This was a big deal. So a restaurant that we always frequented ended up just
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literally making up a job on the spot for me. She's like, you could be a toast girl.
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Didn't know what a Toast Girl was, but I showed up Saturday morning,
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7 a.m., ready for my shift, and I made toast.
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I made toast, and I made waffles, and I took my job very seriously, and it was great.
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And after my first, so I got paid hourly, and that's all I expected to be paid.
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But then when shift was over, all the servers tipped me out,
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just like they would tip out a busser.
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And you know, like the little aprons with the pockets that you wear in the front.
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And so I'm riding my bike home and I have like, my pockets are full of cash.
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So I come home, my parents are like, how is your shift? Like good.
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And I just start pulling all of this cash out of my, my apron.
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And I'm like, look at all of it. Holy mackerel, like kind of doing the math
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of, you know, you're getting minimum wage.
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Plus like you're making a lot of money for a few hours of work.
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And that's, that was my summer. I did that every weekend. And that that was
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and I would I was making it faster than I could spend it.
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So I started accumulating and I would take the money and I put it on my bed
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and like, OK, this is I'm going to put this in the bank and this is going to be my spending money.
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And I would organize my money and I'd like to look at it.
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Now, if only we all had money stories that were that empowering.
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And spoiler, Sherry now works in money and finance and gives advice very similar
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to this. I have another story for you from Karina.
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And her upbringing was very different, possibly, than yours,
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depending on where you're listening from in the world.
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And it really caused some scarcity issues for her related to money. So listen in.
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Okay, so Corina, tell me, how did growing up in East Germany affect the way
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that you looked at money?
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That's a very interesting question because, yeah, it was, I mean,
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obviously I was a child growing up, but there's still a lot of things that I remember.
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One of them was that obviously, which was very pertinent, when the wall came
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down and I was about 12, prior to that, pretty much everybody had work and people
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did whatever kind of work. There was always job security.
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It was never really a case that people would lose their job or if they would
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lose their job, they could potentially lose their home or things like that.
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So that just wasn't a thing in communism.
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And then when the world came down and it all changed, people started losing
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their jobs left, right and center because obviously the companies that were
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run before, they weren't really profitable and it just wasn't the same thing.
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And I remember very much my parents really talking about, oh my God,
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these people just lost their job. We just lost our job. What are we going to do?
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And even though I think I didn't understand it at the time, I think that really
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affected my way of looking at money purely because I always had this need for security.
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Because from that early age on, I thought, oh my God, oh my God, it's like it's scarce.
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And it's so interesting because my sister doesn't have that,
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but then she's eight years younger than me, but she doesn't remember any of this. But I do.
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And And when I, for example, look at my husband, he doesn't have that at all.
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And it's not that his family was very wealthy, not at all. But they just never
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had that because I guess their system never really changed.
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And looking back, for example, for my grandparents, it must have been even worse
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because my grandfather, who's not alive anymore, but obviously was back then,
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he grew up during Nazi Germany.
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Then obviously he went into communism And then when the wall came down Everything
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changed again And they went through so many Currency changes It was kind of really crazy.
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So, yeah, it's really interesting. And I mean, there were loads of other things.
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I remember these little tins where you have a pineapple in it.
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They used to be, I mean, what are they in the supermarket? Maybe like a dollar or a pound or whatever.
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They used to be the equivalent of like $20 a tin.
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So it was totally unaffordable to people because it was just not a product that
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was produced in East Germany because you couldn't find any pineapples in East Germany.
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So these kinds of things were really hot commodities and people just generally
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didn't have access to them.
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And it's very interesting.
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My dad, and I don't remember this, but my dad was actually one of the few people
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that would go to the west for work because he was like a truck driver.
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And then sometimes he would be away for weeks and they used to get sort of like
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money to buy like food for them. So they used to have like an allowance and
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he would never actually spend his allowance.
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He would always spend the allowance and bring stuff back for us because he used
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to say, when you were a kid, you were always sick all the time until I started
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coming back from the West with things like oranges and you got proper vitamin
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C and then you started to improve.
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And I was like, wow, I don't remember that.
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So it's kind of really crazy. But you just, we just had no access to that because
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that just wasn't a thing because you couldn't buy this in the shop.
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Is there any sense in which some of being deprived of certain things has stuck with you, do you think?
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Is that a worry in your mind ever? I don't know.
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I think it's something that maybe is somewhere there unconsciously.
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And it's something that I had to work on, I think, for me.
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But I think more so than also, yes, the money was one thing, I think.
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But the other thing was always feeling that, not that you weren't good enough,
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but that you just didn't know enough, which was true.
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But if people would rub it like in your, for example, I'd never ate prawns until
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I was in my early 20s because I just, this wasn't a thing. I'd never even heard of it.
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And it was just something that I was very aware of.
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And I thought, my God, I have to work twice as hard as everybody else.
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Because basically, when I was 18, I then moved to West Germany for my hotel management degree.
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And of course, in hotel management, there were a lot of things I didn't know.
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Like I didn't know anything about wine. I didn't know anything about these fancy
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dishes in these hotels. I'd never heard of this.
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And I thought, my God, I have to work twice as hard because I just don't have
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the base that a lot of these other people had that were studying with me.
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And I guess it just always made me work harder and appreciate things that I
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can do for like a lot more.
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And I think that was also one of the reasons why travel was really high on my
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list because I knew as a kid, we just couldn't.
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You could only go to the East Block and it was so unaffordable that barely anybody could.
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And I was literally like, the minute I can go somewhere, I'm going.
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I don't care. I'm going to find a way to make this work even on a budget,
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but I definitely need to go and see places. So.
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But yeah, I think there's a lot to probably to like unpack there with like money
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and things like that and not feeling good enough and being a stereotype and
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which is interesting because that also then leads now to my work with the Middle
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East because I feel like a lot of them are also being very stereotyped and I hate when this happens.
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And I've seen it time and time and time again. And I always think I know how
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it feels to be a stereotype and I don't want anybody else to feel like this
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because it's just awful. You know what I appreciate about what you're saying?
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Well, first of all, I appreciate you sharing that with me.
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And second of all, you've taken some of these things that could have really
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negative, really negatively impacted your life and made some of them be a positive thing.
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And that's, goodness, that's, I think, probably what we all strive for.
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So I love that, you know, we have these things about money or deprivation or
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security, but maybe they can become a positive thing, too. So, yeah.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, totally. And I think maybe if you're in it,
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you don't see it like this because you feel it's a negative.
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But coming out of it, it's actually a positive because you just have to make it work somehow.
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Like I knew, for example, when I first came to London, I knew I didn't have anybody to fall back.
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And my parents couldn't just suddenly pick up a bill and wire me a lot of money.
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So I was kind of like, well, I
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got to kind of just finding, I just need to find a way to make this work.
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And I used to do like extra shifts in hotels and things like that.
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And I was like, okay, I hate it, but whatever, at least, you know.
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I'll get what I want. And I wanted to be in London.
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And that was, that was sort of like my dream.
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And I'm like, I will do whatever it takes. And if I need to do,
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if I need to work a little bit more, I will.
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Awesome. Yes. That's such a great way to look at it.
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Now, that is a really significant story. And I was so grateful to Corina for
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sharing that because I don't think I grew up in the US.
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A lot of you, I know where our top listening countries are.
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A lot of you have grown up in Canada, Australia, the UK.
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You may not have ever been in a situation that Corina describes,
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but you may have been in a situation that ended up giving you that same scarcity interpretation.
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It doesn't have to be the same story.
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Now, let me give you one more. This is again from Sara.
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And this is not so much about a childhood story.
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I want to show you that we can kind of create a negative association with money
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or maybe a pattern that causes us to make decisions about money that aren't
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necessarily the best decisions really at any point in our lives. So have a listen.
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Now, here's where I have in the past fallen into, especially during the pandemic,
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some cautionary spending things.
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So I used to, during the pandemic especially, I would get bored and I would start scrolling.
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And then I would decide because I was scrolling that I wanted to purchase things
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and I would get sucked into that trap.
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So I would go, you know, it might be something from Amazon that was like cleaning
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supplies, But it was still something I didn't really necessarily need,
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but I was like looking for something to give me that dopamine hit.
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And so I had to really go back to what I had learned growing up,
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which was to take a minute and wait and see if I really wanted that thing that
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I was planning to purchase because it has to matter to me in order to spend money on something.
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So I've really put that back in place now because I want to be able to continue
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to afford travel and all of the things that I love about my life without having to compromise on them.
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So I now take that pause and I don't purchase anything until I know for sure
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that it's something that's going to enhance my life in some way.
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And sometimes that's fun. Sometimes it's practical, but it has to add some sort
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of value to my life. The dopamine hit.
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Ah, the right now hit the button dopamine hit. We know what that feels like, right?
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So she gives a little bit of good advice there. Take a minute and pause.
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I hope you enjoyed those specific examples. Our stories could come from the most tiny,
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small blip of an experience that we somehow give an interpretation to in our
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minds that makes it more meaningful.
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And I just wanna pause and say, you might go back and you might think about
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all your experiences and you might think about your parents and how they dealt with money.
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None of this is anyone's fault because your parents might've been dealing with
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money in a great way for their situation, but you might have interpreted their
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words or their actions in a way that isn't.
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Productive in terms of money. So it's always about how we interpret the scenario.
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And some things are very clearly going to give us a negative association with
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money, of course, and some a positive, but a lot of it is interpretation,
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not really anyone's fault.
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So if I can give you some kind of generic money stories that get stuck in our
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heads a lot, I said it at the beginning of the episode, money doesn't grow on trees.
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My parents, And so when my sister and I would ask for things when we were kids,
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used to say, jokingly, oh, let me go pick some off the money tree.
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It kind of is a scarcity thing. There definitely could be some associations
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with rich people being evil or mean or selfish or greedy, you know,
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insert the adjective that you might have,
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that idea might have dug into your head a little bit.
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Maybe it's more about grasping energy with money.
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Hold on to it. Don't let it slip through your fingers.
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That's one that somehow just kind of gives me a tingle, like I know it's in there somewhere.
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Don't let it slip through your fingers as if it's running away from us all the time, money.
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Or maybe there's a lot of anger and angst about bills.
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And I'm going to come back to that in a minute. But if we are treating things
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related to money with a lot of negative energy and that doesn't help our energy around money.
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Maybe it's about working hard and go back and listen to episode 12 from last
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week, because I definitely talked about this.
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If we believe the only way to make more money is to work harder and give up
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more time and give up more of our life, that creates a negative thing about income.
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In reality, money is a means of exchange.
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Money is not good and money is not bad. Money has no.
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Value even. It's not as if we're back in the old days where we're using coins
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that were actually made out of silver or made out of gold, and they themselves had value.
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Money is paper. And a lot of times we don't even have the paper, right?
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Money is numbers going back and forth online in various accounts,
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but it's a means of exchange.
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So if we want to have more money, we need to provide more value because money
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goes where value is coming from.
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So if we want more income, we provide more value.
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Maybe that's a product. Maybe it's a service.
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Maybe it's doing what we do even better and more efficiently.
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It could be creating something new.
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So many things. It could be saving in a smart way, investing in a smart way.
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We're doing something that has more value, and that will yield more money.
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It is simply a means of exchange. But we have attached all these different meanings to it.
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So, and unfortunately, most commonly negative meanings, so that kind of muddies
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the water in terms of, if I want to make more money, what do I need to do?
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Immediately, sometimes we have this visceral, oh, I need to do bad things.
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And I am cognizant that some of you may follow me when I say money is an energetic exchange.
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You may or may not. Think about it this way. When you meet a person,
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your first impression of that person comes a lot from the energy that they're giving off to you.
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You can tell, are they a little bit scary? They're a little bit intimidating?
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Are they friendly? Are they quiet?
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You're looking at their appearance, but you're also feeling something from them.
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That's what I mean by energy.
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And we do the same thing regarding money.
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If we're talking about income, sometimes we get very stiff.
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We have this kind of bad energy, and that's not going to do anything to help
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us chrome up with ideas that will create value that will give us more income.
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So that's why we want to find those money stories that are buried deep down in our brains.
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And we want to ask ourselves if we want to hold on to them.
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And I'm going to give you a little method to actually do this with.
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It is not my method. It comes from.
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Byron Katie, in The Work, that's what it's called, she gives four questions
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to help us challenge negative thoughts and negative beliefs.
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So you ready? Here we go. That you find a money story sitting in your brain,
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you remember a memory, and now you've got some examples to think about.
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Here's what I want you to ask yourself. Number one, you've heard me say this before, is it true?
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Is it absolutely true, the interpretation I'm giving to this situation?
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Is it absolutely true that I would have to do something bad in order to have more money or whatever?
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And most of the time, the answer is no, of course, it's not absolutely true.
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It's maybe a guess. It's an estimate. It's a prediction. It's a worry.
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Second question, can you absolutely know that it's true? We're going to sit
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in this for a minute. Is it true?
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Well, you might be tempted to say, yeah, of course it's true. It happened to me.
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Can you absolutely know that it's true? Could you prove it? Third question, how do you react?
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What happens to you or what do you do when you believe that thought?
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So you have some thought about money where it's hard to get because you have
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to do bad things to get it. Let's say, is it true?
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Well, I mean, people do bad things to get it. Can you really prove that it's true?
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Can you absolutely know that it's true? Well, I guess not, not in my life anyway, but,
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prove it. So when I'm believing this thought that I have to do bad things to
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get more money, how am I reacting?
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What is happening inside my body and out? Well, I'm sure that I'm feeling stressed.
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I'm feeling a bit stiff about it. Maybe I feel that stress in my shoulders.
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That's where I tend to carry it. You might carry it in your stomach,
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your kind of gut, or maybe your heart feels upset.
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Maybe it causes you not to take action on an idea.
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Maybe you end up kind of spinning your wheels in your head about ideas and never
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do anything. Or you feel like I can't ever come up with anything creative.
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I'm trying to market this thing and I just can't ever come up with an idea.
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Well, that's because inside you're believing this thought. Fourth question.
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Here's the powerful one and the harder one. So give yourself time.
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Who would you be without that thought.
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So if I take my example, if we never entertain the thought that we would have
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to do bad things to get more income, doesn't it just lift?
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It just gives me this freedom. It just lifts this heaviness off.
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Let me just follow my ideas.
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Let me just do my job well. Let me just grow my business.
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I don't have to tell myself that I'm doing bad things. I know myself,
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I'm not going to do bad things, right?
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Let that lift. And this takes time.
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And I want you to be patient with yourself. And I want you to just think about it.
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Because even the recognition of the fact that these stories hold on to us in
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our brains and potentially affect what it is that we're doing in our lives,
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even that recognition will change some of your actions.
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And the best thing when it comes to I'm trying to figure out a way to make more
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money is to allow yourself to be creative and to just think of ideas.
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And maybe those ideas relate to your current job. Maybe they relate to something totally new.
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But the only way we get to be creative is if we're telling ourselves it's okay and good to do that.
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And then if we're doing it in a calm state in the parasympathetic nervous system,
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and we're just kind of daydreaming it, let yourself have time to daydream ideas.
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Let yourself get in conversations with people who might be a good mentor or
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who might have advice or who've done something similar as to what you want to do.
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Probably a whole nother episode there.
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Maybe they have an idea. Just stay open to it. Let it be light.
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Let yourself be open to it. And the first step is to question these stories that are hidden inside.
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Now, if you're lucky, like Sara and Shari shared, they had some positive money
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stories, then reinforce that. Remember that.
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Ask yourself, how can that apply now in this situation I'm in?
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In the end, the OMG moment I want you to get out of this episode is we all have
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stories that color our beliefs about money and the way we look at money and
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whether we attract or repel money,
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and if we can recognize those stories.
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Question them a little bit to see, is this really serving me? Is this really true?
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What would I do or be without this story?
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That will potentially change the way you feel about situations you're in,
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your ability to come up with new ideas and the actions that you take.
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And at that point, the sky's the limit.
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It really is amazing what we can uncover with a little guidance about how these
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money stories get in there, how we can recognize them, and then what we can
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do to create a healthy relationship with money.
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So I am excited to offer a limited number of spots for a money mindset reset session with me.
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This is a one-on-one 60-minute coaching session, and I would love for you to take a look.
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It will make a huge difference in your relationship with money.
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Go to CherylPFisher.com slash money mindset.
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Check out the details. There's no obligation, of course. Just have a look,
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and I can't wait to talk to you.
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And if you've come up with a money story that surprised you or that you feel
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like maybe I'm going to work on eradicating this from my memory banks,
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find me on Instagram at Cheryl P.
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Fisher and let's talk about it. I love to hear from you.
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Make sure you've hit the follow button because in next week's episode,
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I have a guest coming to join me to talk about grounding.
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And if you've never heard of grounding, let me tell you something.
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You can do it right now today. You need no equipment, you need no extra time.
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And it is fascinating what grounding can potentially do for our health and our
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mindset. So make sure you catch that.
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